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Thanks for checking in everyone.

I’m doing OK, I think?

We’re talking, more day by day. I delivered the speech too.

I’m taking this a step at a time. We’ll see if she follows through

I 100% understand what you're dealing with. I also just found out about my husband of 14 years. Please do not blame yourself or the lack of support that she has because she had you! All that anything takes is communication I feel like. If she was having a hard time or struggling All she had to do was come to you. And you cannot question your feelings because they are yours. There is no right way to feel or wrong way there is only what gets you through it. If you choose to stay and forgive then you're going to have to commit to that. However if you cannot then that is okay too. When I found out I'm the kind of person where I need to express my feelings right away. I feel like I need to talk about this almost constantly with my spouse until I feel enough validation have enough of my questions answered satisfactory and even then it's going to take therapy. So if you want to be angry and yell at her and tell her how you feel then you get to do that! And if she doesn't accept that from you then that's the red flag. Because you are the hurt one here and the fact that you guys were literally intimate right beforehand makes it so much more hurtful! And the way that this hurts is I feel un explainable if you haven't gone through it yourself. Anyway you have tons of replies to read I myself have just joined the site as well and if only been speaking with an AI counselor. But I wish you all the best and I feel like everybody deserves to be loved the way that they want to be loved and if you're not getting the love the way that you want it then as hard and as scary as it is maybe that's a sign to move on? And I am a hypocrite because I'm staying with my spouse for now at least and trying to work it out but I'm hoping that I too have the courage and self-love to if I don't feel satisfied with the way that he is loving me to pick up and walk away. Good luck

I’m sorry to hear that this has happened to you too. The group of people here who have been helping me cope, give me support and sharing their experience has been so immensely helpful.

I hope you find the strength, wisdom and peace you need in your situation too.

I’m taking this day by day, and we’ll see if she’s serious.

I’ve decided to give this a month. Watch her actions, and see what she does and how she treats our situation.

I’ve got about half of my things pre-packed and if I need to leave, I’ll be ready.