Hi all,
Due to H behaviour I have been watching him on his phone discreetly (I feel bad for doing this but due to other behaviour it's got to this point)
last night I caught him blatantly texting somebody and sending links to sex toys to somebody on whatsapp. I waited and waited and chose my moment to confront.
When I walked in the room, he swiped out of the conversation as fast as if he'd sat on a red hot poker.
After getting advice on here previously, I confronted him it took some courage as he can be extremely unpleasant at times and I asked him to give me his phone. He wouldn't. I asked him why and asked who he was messaging and got told no-one.
I asked and asked please let me have your phone reassure me then, if youve nothing to hide. He wouldn't. WHY!!!! Because i would see it all.
He even said it was for the group chat!!!! I said show me then! He wouldn't.
I'm absolutely devastated. I know what this means and due to other issues I think our marriage is definitely coming to an end. We are going on holiday next week and it's spoilt it all. We are currently not speaking and he's sleeping seperate to me. The utter bs that comes out of his mouth is unreal.
We can't cancel our holiday and I was so looking forward to it, its just 7 days away from all the stress at home. I don't know what to do.we either go together , try to work on it, or go as a separated couple and sleep in seperate rooms.
All I know is my trust is 0% and he was hiding something. If he wasn't then giving me his phone would be simple.
[This message edited by Bluefairy at 5:11 PM, Sunday, May 4th]
