Lifeisarollercoaster (original poster new member #85472) posted at 8:02 AM on Saturday, May 17th, 2025
I have been married to WH for 9 years and together 17 years, DD was February 2020, escorts was 2019.
Last night WH and I had sex. It was enjoyable until he tried to do anal. He didn’t ask, I wasn’t expecting it. I told him it hurt. He did pull out and say sorry. I was quite shocked at this point and was holding back tears. What has shocked me more, he told me to turn over and finished himself off over me.
I went to the bathroom and just burst into tears. When I came back he was asleep. I was still really upset. It took me ages to fall asleep and I had a rough night. I’m not sure if I’m just being overly sensitive or not. Everything has been going really well and then this.
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 2:24 PM on Saturday, May 17th, 2025
You're not overreacting. If he had continued on instead of pulling out and apologizing, that would be sexual assault. It's a red flag when the best you can say in your partner's defense is that he didn't rape you.
Couples can have varying agreements about explicit consent for a particular act, but unless anal is a regular course on the menu, it requires preparation from the receiver. His behavior after the overstep was frankly objectifying. I would be shocked, hurt, and very angry if my H moved on so callously from hurting me, even unintentionally.
